Women's Guide Get the Diamond Engagement Ring They Dreams

How can a woman get her dream diamond engagement ring when her boyfriend is buying it and wants it to be a surprise?

To figure out the answer, you must first comprehend your man's thought process. He is, after all, looking for a diamond to symbolize his love for you.

There are three primary shopping priorities for a man looking for an engagement diamond:

1) They want to get a good return on their investment.

2) They want to make you happy.

3) They don't want to disappoint you or, worse, be rejected.

Men act out of fear of making a mistake on all three points. Their pride and desire to surprise their girlfriend often prevents them from seeking advice from her. Men won't try to apply logic to a highly emotional decision.

The majority of men approach diamond shopping in the same way they would any other problem. They investigate the topic, compile all relevant data (often in a spreadsheet), and then make a rational decision.

They assume you share their priorities, so they concentrate on what will be a sound investment. They want a high-quality diamond because they believe that anything less will imply a lower level of love.

The jewelry store in the nearest shopping mall is frequently the man's first stop. They walk in the door and realize they've just stepped into a world they're unfamiliar with.

They examine rings in the display cases and notice that the price tag contains more zeros than they have seen since purchasing their car.

Their hearts begin to race as they realize they must spend thousands of dollars on a tiny little rock they have no knowledge of, then give it away or face rejection.

Their legs are now trembling, so they decide to conduct more research in a more pleasant setting.

They return home, turn on the computer, and begin looking for tips on how to get through the diamond buying process online.

Their goal is to find a lovely ring that their girlfriend will like while still having some money left over.

They are more at ease when discussing the four Cs (color, clarity, carat weight, and cut), as they can match those letter grades to their budget and come up with some possible options.

However, having a little knowledge gives them the sinking feeling that there is still a lot more they need to learn in order to avoid making a costly mistake.

They become even more determined not to make a mistake, so they spend the next few weeks and months gathering all of the information and opinions they can on diamond purchasing.

It's almost as if you're attempting to drink from a fire hydrant. There's simply too much to take in.

At this point in the shopping process, men can lose sight of why they began this journey in the first place. They may lose sight of the fact that making their girlfriend happy is their primary goal.

If you're a woman, you've probably figured it out by now. However, you may be wondering, "What should I do to ensure that I get the diamond of my dreams and that my proposal is as romantic as I hope?"

Here are some ideas to help you make your dreams a reality:

1) Go shopping for yourself so you can tell your boyfriend which diamond shape you prefer on your ring finger. Don't leave it up to him to make a bad guess.

2) If you think this is going to be mostly a surprise gift, drop a few hints about the type of mounting you want for your diamond (solitaire, side stones, etc.). If you're not sure, tell him you want something simple so he doesn't make a costly mistake.

3) Find a way to tell him if you have a strong preference for the type of metal in the ring (yellow gold, white gold, platinum).

4) Get involved in the diamond buying process if you have the type of relationship that allows it. More couples are shopping for engagement rings together than ever before, resulting in higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress.

Many couples now shop together so that the boyfriend knows what shape of the diamond the girlfriend prefers and what style of mounting she prefers, and then he uses that information to purchase the ring on his own timetable and surprise her with the presentation.

The bottom line is that your man is doing everything he can to make you happy to the best of his ability.

All you have to do now is wait and try to appreciate the effort he is putting forth on your behalf.

If you want to see this diamond gifting tradition continue, tell him how proud you are of his research and how much you adore the sparkling diamond on your ring finger.